Prior to June 2013, I didn’t understand submission, nor why it was such a touchy subject for many women. I considered it to be one of those things that stirred up controversy, and wanted to avoid its entirety. Especially, since I didn’t think I was educated enough on the subject to comment, seeing that i wasn’t married.
It wasn’t until after marriage, that I’d reveal the secrets to coping with submission in marriage.
What is Submission?
Before removing the veil, lets define submission. Submission is your ability to yield to the will of another person; it is not a weakness. Weakness is to lack strength, and believe me, it takes a strong women to be submissive.
1. Submission in Marriage is Spiritual
If you are reading this and don’t believe in God, skip to #2. However, this is an important step to coping with submission. The bible reveals the power of submission in the passage of Luke 22:42. It reads, Father if it is your will, take this cup away from Me; nevertheless not my will but Yours, be done. -NKJV
Christ himself had to yield to the will of the Father, as he laid down his life for us. When dealing with submission at home, consider your husband to be the head of the house. Submit yourself to his leadership, but complement his good as a virtuous woman.
2. Submission in Marriage is Realistic
I believe submission to also be practical. Staying with a man, because you love him is one thing, but submitting yourself to abuse is another. Many women stay in abusive relationships, mental and physical, because submission tells them to. However, practically speaking it is not healthy to live in an environment that doesn’t produce love or growth. Woman misinterpret submission as being a door mat to his feet.
3. Submission in Marriage is Interchangeable
You as his wife must submit yourself to him, and he to you. In the body of Christ the bible tells believers to submit to one another. He is not to treat you as his servant or his child, and you are not to order him about. It is NOT a one way street but you can only control your end.
Its not easy being submissive, but as women we must know how to cope. What if i told you that submission is more powerful than you think? We as wives show just how strong we are when we fight silently. You have the power and the strength to be submissive. Many of us, choose not to.
Secrets to Coping with Submission
1. Value his Opinion: trust that his way will work out, even though you may not see it. This allows you to give him adequate advice later, if his way doesn’t work.
2. Appreciate his Authority: Every girl wants to be swept off her feet, but you still have to submit permission to be swept.
3. Work as a Team: Teamwork will allow your husband to go for the goal knowing that you too will get a trophy.
All in All, we must honor our husbands selflessly, and do the will of the Father. Though he has given us the ability to be the head and take control, we have submitted ourselves to God first and to do his will is an act of FAITH.
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